Change of plans

During my senior year of high school, my friend Kristin and I were taking some warm-up laps before a track meet. As usual, we were talking about anything and everything. Somewhere along the way, the topic came up about what we wanted to do with our lives and where we saw ourselves in 10 years.

After a 50 meter stroll of speculation, I said that I didn’t know whether I would really end up getting married. I said that I imagined myself being too busy with a career as a lawyer, politician or network news anchor to settle down with a husband…

In reality, I wasn’t sure that this thing called “love” really existed — and, if it did, I wasn’t sure whether I deserved it.

By the next fall, I was living the high life in college, having fun with friends and meeting new guys. Still, I never wanted to get serious about any relationships, because something always seemed to be off.

Along the way, however, I learned a few things about what was important to me…

I realized that if I was to take a relationship seriously, it would need to be with a guy who shared some of my big passions. Growing up, I took it for granted that my parents worked out together a few times a week. That was their chance to get out, spend time together and work toward similar goals. I wanted something like that in my life.

I realized that if I was to take a relationship seriously, it would need to be with a guy who had the same values as me. Faith, family and friends have always been very important to me and I will never compromise on that.

I realized that if I was to take a relationship seriously, it would need to be with a guy who I wanted to support, love and put before myself. Although I have always been ambitious about my career goals, the most important goal in my life has always been to have my own family. In order to accomplish this most important goal of all, I needed to realize that I don’t come first.

Basically, in order to truly love another person, I had to — for lack of better words — get over my fears and myself.

Believe it or not, after doing that, a certain guy came along who…

Shares my passions.

Shares my values.

And makes me love him unconditionally.

Even though it wasn’t exactly how I imagined my life — or even my college years — working out, there is no place I would rather be.

Questions: How have your plans changed? Has your life ended up as you imagined?

My life isn’t what I imagined — but it is what I’ve dreamed.

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3 responses to “Change of plans

  • Joanne

    Mimi, growing up you had a really tough time when plans changed. In this case, I think your plans have not really changed, you just didn’t know what they were. I am so happy for you that you have found Dan. You are a wonderful couple. Love, Mom

  • Sara @ the foodie diaries

    My life didn’t end up where I imagined, but I also never knew what I wanted. Paul and I were best friends in high school. I never thought that we would end up dating, much less being in a serious, committed relationship where we both plan on marrying each other (when the time is right). It’s funny how things change, but I also think that everything that does happen is for a reason. Regardless of your beliefs, I believe in something that’s bigger than ourselves. Things happen to make us stronger and to lead us to where we’re supposed to be 🙂

  • Jess

    Awww, this is so cute! Love doesn’t always come at the “right time”; sometimes it just comes knocking when we least expect it to!

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